Why Struggle And Pain Will Make You A Stronger Person
In the words of Christina:
"Cause it makes me that much stronger
Makes me work a little bit harder
It makes me that much wiser
So thanks for making me a fighter
Made me learn a little bit faster
Made my skin a little bit thicker
Makes me that much smarter
So thanks for making me a fighter"
The spectrum is vast for this kind of topic, ranging from constant rejection in job interviews and being cheated on to much darker subjects such as domestic violence - which for the record I believe we need to discuss much more openly to help avoid becoming a taboo subject.
The aftermath of any kind of struggle in life can be painful and devastating - whether it's physically after undergoing chemotherapy, or psychologically after being in an abusive relationship for years, our body can shut down and sometimes reject any form of hope or help. With time however what the human body is capable of overcoming is exceptional, I've heard a woman telling the story of her entire family being slaughtered in the 1975 Khmer Rouge genocide of Cambodia, then go on to say how she is now at peace and forgives the perpetrators, she learnt over time that holding onto any anger was only hurting herself more, so she let go of it. The strength of this woman is beyond words.
A man I met trekking in Nepal was involved in a very tragic helicopter crash resulting in him losing a lung - he was training to climb Everest and K2 in the same season. Women battling to have children or being told they simply can't, then going on to adopt or to "stop trying" and give birth naturally to a healthy baby. Being married for 25 years to find out your husband/wife has been having an affair for years, you remarry at 60. To be told at every job interview "you're not right for the job", "you don't have enough experience" or "your qualifications aren't good enough" and then a year later you're running your own successful business. Being brought up with parents that didn't care or give you any encouragement, to then be in your 30s raising two children with the most love a human is capable of giving.
These types of struggles that many of us go through in life can leave us hurt and empty, that dark cloud that comes over your life telling you "nobody will want me", "I'm useless", "what's the point" or "I should give up". These thoughts all bring us down to a low point we didn't think was possible. Then something remarkable happens - it may take 12 months or 12 years - we realise there's a choice, I can stay here under this cloud or I can start to see the light. We begin to build a stronger more superior human being, we start to realise no matter how bad the situation is we can fight it, overcome it or even better, learn from it. As time goes on we start to look back at that dark part of our life and make a promise, to do everything in our power never to go back there, to never allow our mind to tell us we can't or any other human for that matter; you have developed an amazing ability to sympathise and help people who have been or are in a similar situation, you've learnt and grown.
Even though the struggle in life can be so great, the pain can be overwhelming and there are clearly some horrific things that have happened and are still happening in the world, these things have made us stronger and wiser so that one day when we are all ready to talk about our struggles openly we can stand together and support one and other as one race - the human race.
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